Mary Conley Hilliker - grave found!

Mary Conley born 23 June 1833 in Cayuga County, NY (calculated from her gravestone; says she was 38 years 9 months, 7 days).

I have her marriage to Lester Gibbs on 12 Nov 1850 in Lapeer County, Michigan (source Dibean Marriage Records), daughter Eleanor (Ella) born sometime between 1852-1854, I can't find her in the 1860 census, and she isn't with Lester or her daughter, which are with Philo & Mary Ann Gibbs in Dryden, Lapeer County, MI. According to Family Search, she marries to Charles Garner in 1861 in NY (but her surname is Traverse), between 1862-1864 they have Albert and Harriet Garner, all in Cayuga or Wayne County, NY. Charles dies in the Salisbury Prison in Salisbury, NC. Sometime after his death in December of 1864, but before 1868 she moves back to Lapeer County, Michigan.

She marries Mortimer Hilliker on 29 March 1868 (this is where I get Cayuga County, NY as her birth). Daughter Lillie is born in December 1868 in Dryden, Lapeer County, MI. I next find her in 1870 census with husband Mortimer in Dryden, Lapeer County, MI with Bert & Hattie as Hilliker's not Garner. She died on 1 April 1872 and is buried in Thornville Cemetery, Lapeer County, MI.

What I find interesting is...

1. I found Charles Garner in 1860 with Robert & Mary Conley in Cayuga County.
2. Mortimer Hilliker's brother Albert married Rebecca Conley daughter of Justice & Lucy Conley and has a sister named Mary.
3. I found Justus COONLEY (spelling different I know) with Ester, Lucey, Julia, Mary, Harriet, and Rebecca in Lapeer County in 1850
4. Mary is buried in the same cemetery as other Hilliker's but also with Gibbs and Eoff's.
   

Could my Mary be related to Albert's wife Rebecca? Could Robert and Mary Conley who Charles Garner is living with be related to my Mary? Where oh where did my Mary go??

Could this be???

I found this Death Certificate on a website that has Death Records 1897-1920 called Seeking Michigan. Could this be Cordelia "Delia" Lane, who married John H. Lash??

What I know about Cordelia "Delia" Lane is as follows...

Born: Aug 1873 in Hadley, Lapeer County, MI

Parents: Isaac Lane & Elsie Cobb

Census:

1880 living with parents in Elba, Lapeer County, MI

1900 living with husband John Lash in Juanita Township, Tuscola County, MI

1910 living with husband John Lash in Juanita Township, Tuscola County, MI

Children: Lyman J., L. D. "Dee", Freddie, Edward C., Roy "Ray"

Death: Sometime between 1910 and 1918. (When son's Lyman, L. D. "Dee", & Edward entered the service in 1917 there was no mention of her. Then later, when Dee died on 20 Jul 1918, in his Military File it states that his father, John, is a widow.)

Terminology and Meanings of Early Illnesses

This was posted on a email listing I belong to. I thought it was really interesting and really helpful, so I thought I would share it with you all. I don't know who created it or who to give credit for it to, so if anyone knows let me know.
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Ablepsy - Blindness
Ague - Malarial fever
American plague - Yellow fever
Anasarca - Generalized massive edema
Aphonia - Laryngitis
Aphtha - Infant disease "thrush"
Apoplexy - Paralysis due to stroke
Asphicsia - Cyanotic and lack of oxygen
Asphycsia - Cyanotic and lack of oxygen
Atrophy - Wasting away or diminishing in size
Bad blood - Syphilis
Bilious fever - Typhoid, malaria, hepatitis or elevated temperature and bile emesis
Biliousness - Jaundice associated with liver disease
Black plague - Bubonic plague
Black fever - Acute infection with high temperature and dark red skin lesions and high mortality rate
Black pox - Black small pox
Black vomit - Vomiting old black blood due to ulcers or yellow fever
Blackwater fever - Dark urine associated with high temperature
Bladder in throat - Diphtheria (seen on death certificates)
Blood poisoning - Bacterial infection; septicemia
Bloody flux - Bloody stools
Bloody sweat - Sweating sickness
Bone shave - Sciatica
Brain fever - Meningitis
Breakbone - Dengue fever
Bright's disease - Chronic disease of kidneys
Bronze John - Yellow fever
Bule - Boil, tumor or swelling
Cachexy - Malnutrition
Cacogastric - Upset stomach
Cacospysy - Irregular pulse
Caduceus - Subject to falling sickness or epilepsy
Camp fever - Typhus; aka camp diarrhea
Canine madness - Rabies; hydrophobia
Canker - Ulceration of mouth or lips; or herpes simplex
Catalepsy - Seizures/trances
Catarrhal - Nose and throat discharge from cold or allergy
Cerebritis - Inflammation of cerebrum; or lead poisoning
Chilblain - Swelling of extremities caused by exposure to cold
Child bed fever - Infection following birth of a child
Chin cough - Whooping cough
Chlorosis - Iron deficiency anemia
Cholera - Acute, severe, contagious diarrhea with intestinal lining sloughing
Cholera morbus - Characterized by nausea, vomiting, abdominal cramps, elevated temperature, etc.; could also be appendicitis
Cholecystitus - Inflammation of the gall bladder
Cholelithiasis - Gall stones
Chorea - Disease characterized by convulsions, contortions and dancing
Cold plague - Ague which is characterized by chills
Colic - Abdominal pain and cramping
Congestive chills - Malaria
Consumption - Tuberculosis
Congestion - Any collection of fluid in an organ, like the lungs
Congestive chills - Malaria with diarrhea
Congestive fever - Malaria
Corruption - Infection
Coryza - A cold
Costiveness - Constipation
Cramp colic - Appendicitis
Crop sickness - Overextended stomach
Croup - Laryngitis, diphtheria or strep throat
Cyanosis - Dark skin color from lack of oxygen in blood
Cynanche - Diseases of throat
Cystitis - Inflammation of the bladder
Day fever - Fever lasting one day; sweating sickness
Debility - Lack of movement or staying in bed
Decrepitude - Feebleness due to old age
Delirium tremens - Hallucinations due to alcoholism
Dengue - Infectious fever endemic to East Africa
Dentition - Cutting of teeth
Deplumation - Tumor of the eyelids which causes hair loss
Diary fever - A fever that lasts more than one day
Diptheria - Contagious disease of the throat
Distemper - Usually animal disease with malaise, discharge from nose and throat and anorexia
Dock fever - Yellow fever
Dropsy - Edema (swelling), often caused by kidney or heart disease
Dropsy of the brain - Encephalitis
Dry bellyache - Lead poisoning
Dyscrasy - An abnormal body condition
Dysentery - Inflammation of the colon with frequent passage of mucous and blood
Dysorexy - Reduced appetite
Dyspepsia - Indigestion and heartburn; heart attack symptoms
Dysury - Difficulty in urination
Eclampsy - Symptoms fo epilepsy; convulsions during labor
Ecstasy - A form of catalepsy characterized by loss of reason
Edema - Nephrosis; swelling of tissues
Edema of lungs - Congestive heart failure; a form of dropsy
Eel thing - Erysipelas
Elephantiasis - A form of leprosy
Encephalitis - Swelling of the brain; aka sleeping sickness
Enteric fever - Typhoid fever
Enteritis - Inflammation of the bowels
Enterocolitis - Inflammation of the intestines
Epitaxis - Nose bleed
Erysipelas - Contagious skin disease due to Streptococci with vesiculas and bulbous lesions
Extravasted blood - Rupture of a blood vessel
Falling sickness - Epilepsy
Fatty liver - Cirrhosis of liver
Fits - Sudden attack or seizure of muscle activity
Flux - An excessive flow or discharge of fluid like hemorrhage or diarrhea
Flux of humour - Circulation
French pox - Syphilis
Gathering - A collection of pus
Glandular fever - Mononucleosis
Great pox - Syphilis
Green fever - Anemia
Grippe/grip - Influenza-like symptoms
Grocer's itch - Skin disease cause by mites in sugar or flour
Heart sickness - Condition caused by loss of salt from body
Heat stroke - Body temperature elevates because of surrounding environment temperature and body does not perspire to reduce temperature
Hectical complaint - Recurrent fever
Hematemesis - Vomiting blood
Hematuria - Bloody urine
Hemiplegy - Paralysis of one side of the body
Hip gout - Osteomylitis
Horrors - Delirium tremers
Hydrocephalus - - Enlarged head; water on the brain
Hydropericardium - Heart dropsy
Hydrophobia - Rabies
Hydrothroax - Dropsy in chest
Hypertrophic - Enlargement of an organ, like the heart
Impetigo - Contagious skin disease characterized by pustules
Inanition - Physical condition resulting from lack of food
Infantile paralysis - Polio
Intestinal colic - Abdominal pain due to improper diet
Jail fever - Typhus
Jaundice - Condition cause by blockage of intestines
King's evil - Tuberculosis of neck and lymph glands
Kruchhusten - Whooping cough
Lagrippe - Influenza
Lockjaw - Tetanus or infectious disease affecting the muscles of the neck and jaw; untreated, it is fatal in eight (8) days
Long sickness - Tuberculosis
Lues disease - Syphilis
Lues venera - Venereal disease
Lumbago - Back pain
Lung fever - Pneumonia
Lung sickness - Tuberculosis
Lying in - Time of delivery of an infant
Malignant sore throat - Diphtheria
Mania - Insanity
Marasmus - Progressive wasting away of the body, like malnutrition
Membranous croup - Diphtheria
Meningitis - Inflations of brain or spinal cord
Metritis - Inflammation of uterus or purulent vaginal discharge
Miasma - Poisonous vapors thought to infect the air
Milk fever - Disease from drinking contaminated milk, like undulant fever or brucellosis
Milk leg - Post partum thrombophlebitis
Milk sickness - Disease from milk of cattle which had eaten poisonous weeds
Mormal - Gangrene
Morphew - Scurvy blisters on the body
Mortification - Gangrene of necrotic tissue
Myelitis - Inflammation of the spine
Myocarditis - Inflammation of heart muscles
Necrosis - Mortification of bones or tissue
Nephrosis - Kidney degeneration
Nephritis - Inflammation of kidneys
Nervous prostration - Extreme exhaustion from inability to control physical and mental activities
Neuralgia - Described as discomfort, such as "headache" was neuralgia in head
Nostalgia - Homesickness
Palsy - Paralysis or uncontrolled movement of controlled muscles
Paroxysm - Convulsion
Pemphigus - Skin disease of watery blisters
Pericarditis - Inflammation of the heart
Peripneumonia - Inflammation of the lungs
Peritonitis - Inflammation of the abdominal area
Petechial fever - Fever characterized by skin spotting
Phthiriasis - Chronic wasting away or a name for tuberculosis
Plague - An acute febrile highly infectious disease with a high fatality rate
Pleurisy - Any pain in the chest area with each breath
Podagra - Gout
Poliomyelitis - Polio; Potter's asthma
Pott's disease - Tuberculosis of the spine
Puerperal exhaustion - Death due to childbirth
Puerperal fever - Elevated temperature after giving birth to an infant
Puking fever - Milk sickness
Putrid fever - Diphtheria
Quinsy - Tonsillitis
Remitting fever - Malaria
Rheumatism - Any disorder associated with pain in joints
Rickets - Disease of skeletal system
Rose cold - Hay fever or nasal symptoms of an allergy
Rotanny fever - (Child's disease) ???
Rubeola - German measles
Sanguineous crust - Scab
Scarlatina - Scarlet fever
Scarlet fever - A disease characterized by a red rash
Scarlet rash - Roseola
Sciatica - Rheumatism in the hips
Scirrhus - Cancerous tumors
Scotomy - Dizziness, nausea and dimness of sight
Scrivener's palsy - Writer's cramp
Screws - Rheumatism
Scrofula - Tuberculosis of neck lymph glands; progresses slowly with abscesses and pistulas develop; young person's disease
Scrumpox - Skin disease; impetigo
Scurvy - Lack of Vitamin C; symptoms of weakness, spongy gums and hemorrhages under the skin
Septicemia - Blood poisoning
Shakes - Delirium tremens
Shaking - Chills; ague
Ship fever - Typhus
Siriasis - Inflammation of the brain due to sun exposure
Sloes - Milk sickness
Small pox - Contagious disease with fever and blisters
Softing of brain - Result of stroke or hemmorhage in the brain, with an end result of the tissue softening in that area
Sore throat - distemper Diphtheria or quinsy
Spanish influenza - Epidemic influenza
Spasms - Sudden involuntary contraction of a muscle or group of muscles, like a convulsion
Spina bifida - Deformity of spine
Spotted fever - Either typhus or meningitis
Sprue - Tropical disease characterized by intestinal disorders and sore throat
St. Anthony's fire - Also erysipelas, but named so because of affected skin areas being bright red in appearance
St. Vitas dance - Ceaseless occurance of rapid complex jerking movements performed involuntarily
Stomatitis - Inflammation of the mouth
Stranger's fever - Yellow fever
Strangery - Rupture
Sudor anglicus - Sweating sickness
Summer complaint - Diarrhea, usually in infants, caused by spoiled milk
Sunstroke - Uncontrolled elevation of body temperature due to environment heat; lack of sodium in the body is a predisposing cause
Swamp sickness - - Could be malaria, typhoid or encephalitis
Sweating sickness - - Infectious and fatal disease common to the UK in the 15th century
Tetanus - Infectious disease characterized by high fever, headache and dizziness
Thrombosis - Blood clot inside blood vessel
Thrush - Childhood disease characterized by spots on mouth, lips and throat
Tick fever - Rocky Mountain spotted fever
Toxemia of pregnancy - Eclampsia
Trench mouth - Painful ulcers found along gum line; caused by poor nutrition and poor hygiene
Tussis convulsiva - Whooping cough
Typhus - Infectious fever characterized by high fever, headache and dizziness
Variola - Smallpox
Venesection - Bleeding
Viper's dance - St. Vitus dance
Yellowjacket - Yellow fever